At some point in our lives, we’ve all experienced it: Inappropriate behavior that makes us uncomfortable, frightened or seriously threatens our personal safety. This book teaches quick and easy safety tips that help you avoid or respond to attention you don't want.
'The Hottie Handbook: A Girl’s Guide to Safety" is a primer for women who want to be smart about self protection. This book is a collection of top 10 lists on personal safety, with topics that include surfing the internet, blind dating, dorm room, travel, car and work, among others. I've included first-hand, personal stories of safety from women from all walks of life -- women ranging from models and actresses to teachers and stay-at-home moms.
At this point, you're probably asking yourself what makes me an expert. Simple: For over five years, I was stalked and harassed by a man I’d never met. He sent me over 2,000 pieces of mail, cyber stalked me, contacted acquaintances and friends in an effort to find my whereabouts and believed God was telling him he would get to marry me.
Why me? Because my photo was used to illustrate a prepaid phone card. That's all it took to catch the attention of one unhinged person.
Let’s be clear here: I’m not famous. I’m a working actor and model. I’m not an Angelina Jolie or a Jennifer Aniston. I’m just someone who earns a living in the public eye. And I got lucky: having a public profile meant the LAPD’s Threat Management Unit finally took my case. However, it took five years for them to accept it and in the meantime… I took matters into my own hands.
And I discovered for the average woman, there is
(a) little guidance available for what you should do if a random, potentially dangerous person decides that you’re his reason to live and
(b) If this could happen to me, it could happen to anyone. And that’s a lot of women who need the same guidance it took me years to find.
In the process of protecting my own information, I realized how much personal information is readily available to almost anyone. With the advent of the internet, the average person puts out as much personal information about themselves -- or more -- as I did as an actor. And all it takes to ruin your life is one person for whom the phrase “socially appropriate” is meaningless.
So I invite you to read my blog, learn more about personal safety, and if you wish, purchase my book. Looking forward to a wonderful virtual journey with you.
A special thanks to:
The LAPD Threat Management Unit
FBI Special Agent Anne Wetzel
Special Agent Craig Peterson
District Attorney Alex Perez
Attorney Robert Brodney
And to my friends and family, thank you for everything!
"The Hottie Handbook contains a wealth of information that women of every age should know. Candace has covered safety from A-Z; I learned things I wish I had known years ago! Get this for all of the women in your life. Every hottie needs one!" 
"Being a model and television personality I've experienced both wanted and unwanted attention. Candace's quick safety tips have really helped me and I strongly encourage young women in the entertainment industry to listen to her words of wisdom." 
Candace Kita has put together an impressive and comprehensive list of safety tips that all students, male and female, will find helpful when heading off to college!" 
"Candace Kita's insight and wisdom will be very helpful to young Hollywood." 
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